The first Principle is Dare to Think Big - identifying a stretch goal - "one that pushes us past our comfort zone or one we might not fully believe is attainable. Ruth Soukup has written a really insightful book about fear and overcoming it. I have followed her blog and books for years and her enthusiasm and encouragement have helped me to achieve so much as an entrepreneur and other areas of my life. In her new book, Do It Scared, she took a hard look at what our biggest fears are and how they are holding us back.
She has identified seven main fear types called archetypes and their characteristics that can keep us from taking those steps towards having Ruth Soukup has written a really insightful book about fear and overcoming it. She has identified seven main fear types called archetypes and their characteristics that can keep us from taking those steps towards having the businesses we want, the relationships we want, and the life we want. There is a fear assessment that comes with the book that you can take online.
It identifies your main fear archetype and two secondary fear archetypes.
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It also gives you pros and cons to your specific fear archetype. She also outlines in the book seven steps to overcome our fears and just do it scared! I'm facing blindness- talk about other people and their limiting beliefs!
She shows you how to dream big, break it down into bite-sized doable chunks, and then start checking them off your list, leaving the nay-sayers in the dust. I have used her process of getting things done enough to know that it works and it would work for anyone who would actually DO it from start to finish.
Go grab your copy and find out what fears are holding you back so you can kick them to the curb and Do It Scared! May 28, Kori rated it it was amazing Shelves: self-help. I was constantly living my life in a trap of procrastination brought on by perfectionism. This trap kept me back from doing so many things in life and in business.
I was always second guessing or just putting things off because I was paralyzed by this fear. This fear kept me from moving forward and making changes. It kept me from holding back my gifts that I knew I had. I've tried, for years, to break free from this trap but no matter what? I would always find myself falling back. Something just I was constantly living my life in a trap of procrastination brought on by perfectionism. Something just seemed to be missing, even when I had all of the to-do lists and timers in place.
Doing It Scared entered into my life at a perfect time and I could not be more grateful for the guidance and wisdom that Ruth shares. Not only was I able to identify my primary fear archetype but also my secondary archetypes. Having this information is huge because it allows me to address not only the primary fear brought on by procrastination but also the self-doubt and the people pleasing. While I may have thought it was just the procrastination at work, I was able to fully see how all of these play in together and really hold me back from doing the things in life that I want to do.
Now, thanks to Doing It Scared, I am empowered, encouraged, and confident to move forward. I no longer feel paralyzed by fear and I am ready to take action- even if it's imperfect action. Thanks to the Principles of Courage and Courage in Action, I now have a clear view of what to do, how to do it, and why it matters. I am no longer second guessing, I am no longer self-doubting, and I am no longer worrying about all of the what-ifs.
I am ready and willing to Do It Scared. May 21, Angel rated it it was amazing. I have loved every thing I have encountered from Ruth Soukup and was excited to see what wisdom I could glean from her newest book. What I loved the most was that not only does this book help you identify your fear archetype and I have loved every thing I have encountered from Ruth Soukup and was excited to see what wisdom I could glean from her newest book.
Some of my favorite quotes: "Action is the antidote to fear. May 12, Colleen Mitchell rated it it was amazing. Do It Scared is a book about fear -- how fear affects different people in different ways, how to reframe and manage the different fear archetypes, and how to embrace the principles of courage to stop living a life you hate. Each section is full of relatable stories, explanations, encouragement, and tips for the topic at hand.
And I love that! It reinforces the message Ruth is trying to convey:. I took the fear assessment before reading the book and discovered that my top three fear archetypes are 1 people pleaser, 2 procrastinator, and 3 rule follower. Those sections resonated with me the most because I recognize myself in those stories -- and the tips to reframe and handle those fears is really helpful for me. I also love, love, love the deep dive into the Principles of Courage.
Do It Scared is packed full of truth bombs that people need to hear if they want to take control of their lives. May 06, Michelle rated it it was amazing. Ruth Soukup's new book Do It Scared takes you through her process of breaking through fear to accomplish your big scary goals. She researched fears that hold us back, discusses fear archetypes and ways to combat your fears to reach your big goals. She provides an assessment online to find your prominent fear archetype to make that section more individualized.
The next sections on courage and action really kicked my butt in gear. The courage sections that held the most meaning were about rules, r Ruth Soukup's new book Do It Scared takes you through her process of breaking through fear to accomplish your big scary goals. The courage sections that held the most meaning were about rules, responsibility, balance, and excuses. As a procrastinator, my fear has me stuck in inaction but "action is the antidote to fear. I'm also really good at making plans. Do It Scared helps you to reframe, act and get accountability so fear no longer holds a grip on you.
But she also says, "Courage is a daily decision. If you have big dreams that you never get around to or you're stuck not getting momentum in your goals then this book is a must to help you push past fear and achieve your dreams. Apr 22, Sarah Berckenhoff rated it it was amazing Shelves: self-help. Do It Scared took away all the comfortable excuse I have created throughout my life and made them obsolete. My warm, cozy, familiar blanket of excuses was yanked away from me, leaving me to face a cold, harsh reality. You need this book.
You will have a love-hate relationship with this book. You will read this book twice. Probably three times. Once you read Do It Scared, you will be forced to realize every excuse, experience, or hardship you have created and endured is not a good enough reason fo Do It Scared took away all the comfortable excuse I have created throughout my life and made them obsolete.
Once you read Do It Scared, you will be forced to realize every excuse, experience, or hardship you have created and endured is not a good enough reason for you to not set big goals and achieve them. Your fear is an infection that spreads throughout your mind and poisons your thoughts. The anecdote is knowledge of what your fear really is. Without knowing and acknowledging your fear, you will have no way to combat your fear and live the life you want. Do It Scared is the key to calling your fear what it is and gives you the advice and courage to face your fears and do something about them.
This is a well-crafted action guide to creating a better life for yourself. This is not a motivational book. You will have to do the work.
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You are the only one responsible for how your life turns out. Do not read Do It Scared if you are happy living a meek life with no dreams. But, buy a copy for someone who is inspired to set big goals and live their best life. Give a copy to a wife or mother who has spent most of her life living for someone else. Read Do It Scared if you know fear is holding you back from living. You get one life. What are you going to do with yours? Apr 17, Kirstine rated it it was amazing. In the first 7 chapters, Ruth explains the 7 types of fear archetypes that could be holding you back.
She gives you examples of habits and behaviors of each type and helpful action steps fo help overcome each of them. Next in part 2 - The Principles of Courage - Ruth gives us 7 different principles to change our mindset and change any limiting beliefs we may be telling ourselves. In part 3 we get to put all of this all into action. I absolutely love the way Ruth has shown us a Daily Do It to plan the day.
I will be implementing this daily for sure. This book is for you if you feel stuck, are scared to move forward or have a fear holding you back. You will get so much out of reading this book. I recommend taking lots of notes as there are many great tools available to get you to the other side of what is keeping you from reaching your goal. A definite must read if you want to keep moving forward and follow those big dreams of yours even if they might be scary at first.
I received an early copy in exchange of my honest review. The book is so good that I have one coming to add to my collection of great books. Apr 29, Tara E rated it it was amazing. In fact, for the past two years I have been praying for courage. Her explanations are easy to understand, and real-life case studies make the content relata "Fear has always ruled my life in one way or another. Her explanations are easy to understand, and real-life case studies make the content relatable and relevant.
Unlike fluffy personal development novels, Do It Scared supports the reader with plenty of applicable strategies and a healthy dose of tough love. Soukup acknowledges that fear is a fact of life and encourages readers to rise above it. Soukup stresses the importance of tackling big dreams even if that means letting other things temporarily fall by the wayside.
Do It Scared is a book that, for me, will never be too far out of reach. No matter what season of life I am in, I know the advice in these pages will motivate me to conquer my fears and seize my biggest goals. May 23, Jace Draper rated it it was amazing. It then makes sense that the steps she encourages us readers to take are easily accessible to the masses! Apart from her research of individuals, Ruth also incorporates her understanding of a couple of personality "By clearly defining how fear can be impacting each of our lives through fear archetypes, Ruth paves the way to insightful and encouraging steps to take in order to face our fears and conquer our goals.
Apart from her research of individuals, Ruth also incorporates her understanding of a couple of personality, character, and strengths tests that highlight specific areas that are helpful to understanding our fear archetypes as well as how to grow in courage. My favorite part of the book has to be how each type is addressed: with relatable stories, in-depth examples, and multiple strategies to move forward from giving us the premium content of the test all in one place.
My second favorite part is how Ruth takes the SMART goal approach to our fears, laying out the path to implementing courage with this and multiple other supportive and encouraging truths. This isn't a book just for those who've got it somewhat together, instead-it reaches those who have even the greatest level of fear tripping them up. Apr 19, Heather rated it it was amazing. This three-part book opened my eyes to patterns in my life that are holding me back. This book is definitely one that you need a highlighter and a notebook!
After reading about the seven fear archetypes, I quickly resonated with two of the seven. I was able to see how my previously undiagnosed fears are limiting me. Ruth Soukup in her book, Do it Scared, shows ways to change that fear into courage. So now what? Knowledge is not enough. To change my dreams into plans. Do It Scared has helped me reframe how I think about my children, my students, and my life in general. It is changing how I teach and how I parent. And I know it will be a book I encourage my daughters to read before they start their own journeys.
Apr 20, Heather Balog rated it really liked it. I pre-ordered this book and joined the launch team, so I was able to preview a PDF of the book in advance of the May 21st publication date in exchange for an honest review. Ruth has been so inspirational to me over the past 8 months or so.
She's overcome so many obstacles and really has such an upbeat attitude. I have read her other books and I love Ruth's podcasts and have listened to every one of them After listening t 3. After listening to the podcasts and taking the fear assessment there was nothing new gathered from this book. The book was made up of the podcasts verbatim. If you have never listened to the podcasts, however, and you have no idea what your fear archetype is, this book is a must read.
I am just really disappointed that I spent money on the book and did not learn anything additional. I kept looking for something that I hadn't heard before from Ruth, but I never found it. However, I do dislike digital copies of books, so maybe when the actual hardcover book arrives in May, I will enjoy having it for easy reference. I think this book is really useful and overall is a 4 star book with helpful insight, but I gave it 3. Apr 22, Cat Highley rated it it was amazing. Do It Scared, the latest book from Ruth Sokoup is the tough love challenge you need to stop making excuses and do the dang thing!
Ruth has the perfect mix of understanding, and tough love to motivate you, then she combines it with practical advice that encourages you and shows you how to just do it scared! Do It Scared first walks you through discovering which of the 7 Fear Archetypes most closely represents what is holding you back, and takes you a step further into discovering the principles o Do It Scared, the latest book from Ruth Sokoup is the tough love challenge you need to stop making excuses and do the dang thing! Do It Scared first walks you through discovering which of the 7 Fear Archetypes most closely represents what is holding you back, and takes you a step further into discovering the principles of courage to help you overcome your fear.
With steps to make an action plan and how to find people to really hold you accountable, Ruth inspires and encourages you to reach for those big scary goals and make them a reality! Do It Scared is the perfect book for you if you want to find a way to reach past your fear and achieve your goals anyway! Do It Scared is a book I will continue to re-read over and over for the rest of my life to help me really live my life to fullest and accomplish my dreams. May 21, Shawna Cale rated it it was amazing. I would have guessed myself as the Rule Follower, but, when The Procrastinator came up I was intrigued.
Few people would say that about me. However, it only took reading Chapter 1 in do it scared that I realized she was talking about me. Not only have I been able to deceive others in regards to my procrastination, but I have been the one in denial forever. Skills are easier to enact when a formula or model can be used to guide behavior.
The objective of the following formula See Figure 4 is to propose a model to use that will call for less work in the frontal cortex, which is already managing the danger of speaking see Figure 4. A conversation between a nurse and a physician who refuses to discuss the condition of a terminal patient with a family could take this shape:. I would like you to spend time with them and help them understand that this will not happen.
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Skill is definitely needed when the nurse receives from the other individual a self-protective retort of defensiveness. Pausing before reacting to a defensive response gives nurses time to self-sooth and not respond in kind. If the individual walks away, nurses need to determine if they will pursue the person and re-assert. Generally the withdrawal is best left unaccompanied at that time.
The next time the nurse sees the person, the nurse can move toward them and ask to finish the conversation. Negotiation is the process of searching for mutually acceptable solutions. During the negotiation process both parties look for common interests and brainstorm to identify options acceptable to both parties. Guidelines for the development and evaluation of options during negotiation include the four steps described in Figure 5. If there are no options that coincide, then further discussion of options is in order, as perhaps the discussion has slipped into a defense of positions, rather than examination of options.
Finally, in negotiation both individuals jointly decide on one or more of the alternatives. Negotiation skill development will fortify the nurse to be better able to handle the stress of the situations that require moral courage. Kritek presents a number of down-to-earth suggestions about negotiating conflicts where some participants are at a disadvantage that others do not acknowledge. Kritek encourages individuals to go to the table having already decided they will honor their integrity, because she believes nurses who do so will be alert and committed to advocating for their personal beliefs.
Both honesty and consistently holding to moral principles and standards are necessary to be seen as a person of integrity. People with integrity are outspoken, steady in actions, and open about motives. Before entering into negotiations, nurses must also know their own, specific needs and interests so that they know what concessions and compromises they are willing to make. It is important that nurses not begin their negotiations before they plan and organize their approach. The lack of a sound plan will make nurses more liable to react emotionally.
Armed with an understanding of their obligations, nurses must assess the risks in speaking or acting in ethically charged situations. Sometimes, the risk may be too great and further analysis of the problem is warranted, or a call to the ethics committee is the appropriate action. Danger management is an important aspect of moral courage. Developing assertiveness and negotiation skills also enable nurses to be morally courageous. Nurses with moral courage understand that there may be undesirable consequences for their actions, yet realize that maintaining a high level of integrity is more important than avoiding these consequences.
In Dr. Lachman has authored over publications and her second book, Applied Ethics in Nursing , was released at the end of Her third book, Ethical Challenges in Healthcare: Developing Your Moral Compass, which focuses on the skills and organizational culture necessary for moral courage, was released in June by Springer Publishing.
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McKay , M. McClure , J. Civilized assertiveness for women: Communication with backbone Nightingale strength still needed today. Nursing Standard , 22 1 , Patterson , K. Give up the rat race, accept reality and have the courage to be disliked — the latest self-help trend is not about self-reinvention but finding contentment in the life you have.
Sat 12 Jan Then again, the self-reinvention narrative was always a bit suspect to begin with. Or suppose you plan to conquer your perfectionism: how will you avoid getting all perfectionistic about that? There are no completely fresh starts, there is no year zero. In response to the prevailing mood, there has been a noticeable change of tone in the world of self-help, a publishing genre historically dedicated to promising massive, near-effortless transformation overnight, or in a couple of weeks at most.
For a while now, that hyperbole has been losing ground to a spirit of anti-utopianism — of accepting yourself as you are, building a good-enough life, or just protecting yourself from the worst of the world outside. Adult colouring books are the most easily mockable manifestation of this urge. But Gawdat, far from championing the tech multimillionaire lifestyle as the only one worth aiming for, writes movingly of having achieved it, only to discover its emptiness.
And he has endured far worse, losing his year-old son Ali as a result of complications during routine surgery. The argument is not, as progressive critics of self-help sometimes imagine, that disadvantaged people need only stop expecting anything better in order to be content. Some expectations — a reasonable standard of living, healthcare, fulfilling work, social connection — may be entirely rational.
As Dolan concedes, it can be notoriously hard to pin down the direction of causation in wellbeing research: it could be that gloomier people are more prone to doing university degrees, rather than that degrees make people gloomy. These sorts of findings are increasingly well known, but where Dolan excels is in drawing attention to how stubbornly we resist their implications. They may not serve us, but they certainly serve the system in which we find ourselves embedded. The pursuit of wealth or social mobility might not bring happiness, but it does fuel economic growth — while marriage, parenthood, fitness and the rest keep the whole operation running smoothly into the next generation.
Dolan focuses on how uniquely detrimental such messages can be for children from working-class families.